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With permission from Nash i have wanted to make this thread so we could learn from the wise Nash's failures and mighty triumphs. I will let Nash describe how he will dell out his advice. Also other posters feel free to throw advice out as you see fit.
I always liked this one, but never truly understood it until I got older. This was one of my grandpa's favorites:
Never crap where you lay your head.
The poster formerly known as 31-7. Understood by few, known by many, loved by all.
You didnt really explain how you want the thread to work...or are we waiting on nash for that?
Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or it may last a year. But eventually, it will subside. If i quit, however it will last forever.
I will start if off.
My girlfriend of a little over a year has recently purchased a home. This is a good thing. She got it all on her own. I will still be living with my parents (due to my fathers situation) but will be spending about half my time staying with her. I will be splitting bills and helping her as much as possible. Everyone is on the same page to this point, and things are moving fast.
So here is my question. My girlfriend is now picking out furniture for the house. I have no clue about interior design, and don't care to know about it. My mom was an interior designer for years, and i am just used to things looking nice and being right. My girlfriend is good at many things but putting a room together is not one of them. As i find this out, i am wondering how involved i get here. Also her mom has no clue about this stuff either, but is trying to lead the charge on creating a disaster.
Do i push her to take my moms help? Do i push my mom to try to help? Do i leave mom out and try to help and throw my 2 cents in. Should i overrule her mom at all? Or do i just stay far far away until the dust settles?
Just ask away and hope the Nash will be listening. Wanted to give him the opp. to tell you jive turkeys the nature of his responses.
Not sure you push at all. I find an active and engaging conversation over concerns like this to be the best long-term solution.
At this point it is her house, not yours. If she wants a cardboard coffee table and lawn chairs, not sure how you really have a say in it until you are co-owners.
So nobody else pipe in with answers, just questions?
Ha a citronella candle would really set the mood at that dinner.
What I'd say: this is your house, how you furnish it is your call. My mom has professional experience with how to furnish it and would be happy to help you. I can understand your mother wanting to help you, but she's not a professional, and you could end up wasting a lot of money while she learns on the fly. Worse, she's going to feel bad if she doesn't do a good job. She's set up to fail, and I'm having a hard time standing by and watching.
I'm not going to push, actually, I'm not going to mention it again, but you should know the offer stands.
Feel free to throw all the wisdom you want in hear. It says that in original post.
Or to really throw her off, just don't mention the furniture, start deriding her over choice of home location and while she is crying into her pillow, move the furniture around how you want.
very sound advice there jay.
I will wait for Nash to chime in, but we might have a winner here Brick!
Is it to early for the piitb response?
Let her do as she wants.
If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
I assure you that questioning her creativity is tantamount to questioning her womanhood.
Good luck with that.
What Jay said. It's her house. You have no say until you pay rent
This post was edited by N8Nole 13 months ago
3-2-1 TOUCHDOWN FSU
Will be paying portion of mortgage and bills. Got the clearance to put up my FSU dart board in the garage, I'm good either way now. Bring on the lawn chairs
Same principal as: Don't sheet where you eat; i.e. don't cause trouble where you have to spend a lot of your time - at home.
Suggest you all go together, or a team of the folks listed above.
1. You have more acumen about this than you think.
2. Bonding and consensus building possibilities (they will all come to some sort of agreement on your list of flaws), or a fist-fight. One way or the other and you take the guess-work out of the relationship.
Why you naughty thang you! Pictures?
Ask away lads and lasses. I'll give you my best, and if I don't know, I'll say that. Otherwise, happy to be of possible assistance. I will most likely keep my answers laced with my own brand of irreverent humor. Like everyone, I've had my share of triumphs and failures, so maybe I have at least another perspective to offer.
This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by Nashnole 13 months ago
Maybe you've answered this already Nash but how did you get so good at story telling?
Thank you for your kind comment. The cliff notes version. I was born into a family who has a lengthy history, passed down orally through time, by an ancestor who is the official keeper of the keys. They choose an acolyte to follow in their footsteps and keep the tradition alive. This is considered a most high family honor. For my time that's me and I take the duty seriously. I will choose ultimately among my grand kids to keep it going when I get kilt. Claire, my Grand Daughter has shown a keen interest and will most likely reveive the mantle. I was also read to as a child by a lot of folks, and read everything I could on my own - still do, Perhaps one of my greatest joys, was sitting at the feet of my great auntie with my cousins, listening to her recount our lineage in beautiful pidgin Italian/English, in such a manner as to entertain us in storybook fashion. I never missed it. My Scot Great Granny, also regaled me with stories of Fairies, Trolls, Goblins and the like, in a Scot Brogue that is still music to my ears when I recall her (Awa wi ye! De laddie is wandered. Awa wi da wood imps, and someday will be hung!) . I guess the rest is just that I really like to do it. Seeing the smiles and concentration on a child's face while listening to me bum my chat about magic cats et. al., is all the reward I'll ever need.
Oh me and my grand daughter, are creating a digital file with the family history on a huge thumb drive. Her favorite is the tale of one of our females who stuck a bone sewing needle through the eye of her violator, a Moorish gentleman, which made him scream and shake. She was killed by his mates, but certainly kept her virtue intact.
This post was edited by Nashnole 13 months ago
No questions today? Been out all day at a client's Grand Opening.
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